The Two-Faced Backstabbing Tangle
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The Two-Faced Backstabbing Tangle

I coined the "Two-Faced Backstabbing Tangle" after experiencing a particularly painful personal interaction. Naming it led me to reflection and discovery and the recognition that this is a common phenomenon. I also discovered some ways to mitigate its impact. In my capacity as an executive coach and consultant, I have seen this nasty tangle snarl teams. Here's the story of its origins, its biological underpinnings, and how to not get snarled in the emotional pain this nasty tangle can inflict.

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Strong Leaders are Win-Win Negotiators

Strong Leaders are Win-Win Negotiators

There has been a lot in the public press flouting the negotiation skills of a certain elected leader. We have observed public bullying, insults, and threats masquerading as “good” negotiation ploys. The results of these ploys have not, as far as I can tell, yielded any measurable good deals.

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STOP IT! Actually You Can!

STOP IT! Actually You Can!

A few years ago, some of my Silicon Valley executive coaching clients asked me if I had seen the Bob Newhart “Stop It” video. It was making the rounds in their company. When I saw it, I understood why they wanted me to watch it.

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Avoid Team Tangles–Call Pinches Before They Escalate
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Avoid Team Tangles–Call Pinches Before They Escalate

Are you or your team experiencing frequent pinches? The unwillingness or inability to verbalize and share missed expectations, or pinches, tangles team relationships and slows down productivity.

I learned about the "pinch model" many years ago while working at Wilson Learning. I have found it incredibly useful and n ow use it in my MBA classes and with clients. The Pinch Model was developed by John Sherwood and John Glidewell and then Sherwood and John Scherer expanded it further.

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